• Italian

For several months I tried to start a new way of life, perhaps more fatalistic, perhaps less frenetic (certainly changing work from the metropolis to a small city influenced this choice, but it is a path that I started long ago) but I think is giving me a lot of benefit. It all started with this book (which I’m also slowly re-reading) and continued with this other that it was a real godsend. When I get
something that bothers me, my first thought is: “that is really worth pissed about this? “. Okay outburst immediate, but never ruminate or think “going on now and if this thing, then there may be that other “and so on as if life would be a big game of chess. No, life is a thing which should rightly have rules, that tests us, but that should not be seen as a prison camp. But let’s get back to us: ok, I’m angry. And now? In 99% of cases, you don’t care about my anger. You can’t solve a problem just being pissed. Ergo, it is not worth angry. Sure, there are those 10 seconds in which
we need to stop and reflect. Seconds during which I do deep breathing: a breathing means that it gives me nuisance. Two breaths indicate that I do not have angry, even if it makes me angry. Three breaths are the highest achieved: I’m trying not to send you to hell (or not to scream). This “job” is not that complicated: just be aware of your limits and your own capacity, more than anything else is an internal process that requires us to sort ourselves out (we can also lie to everyone, but we can hardly lie to ourselves) and with the awareness that we are just a grain of sand on a beach.